Second Trimester (13-28 weeks)

A husband’s point of view. Words from Ming Han’s journal continues.

Week 13
The emotional manipulation and guilt tripping begins. When it comes to food particularly. I’ve already caved in. There is no saying “no” to the queen of life.

Week 14
Announcement week! She’s started the ‘baby clothes’ ball rolling by making her own baby shoes for the photos. Oh boy. Fart-shame no longer exists.

Week 15
Foot massages are the epitome of love for her now (good tip: use moisturising cream for her legs too). She has no problem hanging her legs over my shoulders to get a massage. Vomiting has finally slowed down!! But midweeks are still the worst for her. Went back into one day of just feeling absolutely tired.

Week 16
While I was lying on my tummy using my phone, she suddenly asked “oh when can I lie down on my stomach again”. I had no answer.  Her nausea is seemingly getting better, but she had a bad Friday and felt a bit down. The down parts are a bit hard to watch but these are the times to be beside her more.

Week 17
This week went pretty lowkey, normal - until she asked to get a Ramli burger special right after a 6-dish Chinese dinner. 

Week 18
Her after-dinner cravings have kept up. But there’s a slight improvement to her nausea. We both know it. We both aren’t saying anything because we both don’t wanna jinx it. 

Week 19
Suyen’s only JUST gotten a bit more clumsy and its a bit nerve-wrecking. I’ve never been so on edge and alert like a watchdog. But we’re on our honeymoon and it SEEMS like her nausea has really gone down and we’re just crossing our fingers more and more.

Week 20
Our honey-anni-babymoon in NZ was a dream. Zero nausea, 100% energy levels - it was like the woman I once knew. But the minute she touched down, she threw up 6 times in the same day and was so depressed about it. We made a small switch that seemed to make all the difference - bottled mineral water. Side note - she becoming a LITTLE absent minded. Just a bit. The baby has started kicking/punching!

Week 21
Energy levels are back and she’s super happy about it. Was it really the water? She cleaned the house for the first time since she got morning sickness - THAT’s how good she was feeling. Thursday was a shock. She was throwing up in the morning just off some coughing. We realised its really a water thing. She mistakenly drank some older water that we had. Switched back to distilled-a-okay.

Week 22
Nausea is gone - water was the “thing”. Baby is kicking like crazy! Also - I came home to furniture moved around the house. Including a whole cupboard from the bedroom to the washing machine room - with all of its contents swapped out and reset with new ones. Heavy, many, new ones. I don’t know how she did it.

Week 23
Came home to a new cupboard/shelf assembled and more painting done. Had a bit of a stressed out moment because she was painting @-@ but good Lord. She moved the whole balcony by herself and built a huge piece of furniture. How??

Week 24
Baby is going AT it. Kicking is at full force and from time to time - she’ll be “eeeeee” because the baby is poking her arms/legs/we actually don’t know what, out of her tummy. Also, she puked twice this week. No idea why or how but just in the mornings, but she was cool with it. Oh! She cooked her first meal again in months! (The chicken was 4 months expired though - but our stomachs were totally fine) Also - becoming a bit more pregger-brained apparently. This week, random things started slipping her mind a bit more.

Week 25
Baby’s cute bumps have become boxing matches. Suyen’s always groaning how the baby’s stretching her body and tummy and ooh-ahh-ing whenever the baby kicks (really kicks). Also, pregnant brain has come into effect (I thought we were clear from that). She lost her access cards this week and she was pretty bummed about it. Thank God for the good security guard who returned the cards to us.

Week 26
Spent half the week in SG but returned to an interesting event. Prenatal class was pretty interesting - not what we expected it to be at all. But the most calming thing was actually seeing the maternity wards and the different rooms. The labour room wasn’t near as scary as what we thought it would be! 

Week 27
Baby clothes, diapers and anything baby-fitting are in full-spaz mood. She spent a while just looking at newborn diapers and picturing how the baby would be in them. Also, she built a full-sized IKEA bed with drawers at the bottom and I still have no idea how she does it. I’m actually typing this while she’s sleeping next to me and I can see the baby having a ball of a jumping up and down session in her tummy! My gosh does the baby move even more while she sleeps?

Week 28
She had the first real stretchmark scare the other day. It wasn’t the real thing though. She was in a dress that left some marks on the top of her tummy. But boy was it a real scare to her.