Life

Second Trimester (13-28 weeks)

A husband’s point of view. Words from Ming Han’s journal continues.

Week 13
The emotional manipulation and guilt tripping begins. When it comes to food particularly. I’ve already caved in. There is no saying “no” to the queen of life.

Week 14
Announcement week! She’s started the ‘baby clothes’ ball rolling by making her own baby shoes for the photos. Oh boy. Fart-shame no longer exists.

Week 15
Foot massages are the epitome of love for her now (good tip: use moisturising cream for her legs too). She has no problem hanging her legs over my shoulders to get a massage. Vomiting has finally slowed down!! But midweeks are still the worst for her. Went back into one day of just feeling absolutely tired.

Week 16
While I was lying on my tummy using my phone, she suddenly asked “oh when can I lie down on my stomach again”. I had no answer.  Her nausea is seemingly getting better, but she had a bad Friday and felt a bit down. The down parts are a bit hard to watch but these are the times to be beside her more.

Week 17
This week went pretty lowkey, normal - until she asked to get a Ramli burger special right after a 6-dish Chinese dinner. 

Week 18
Her after-dinner cravings have kept up. But there’s a slight improvement to her nausea. We both know it. We both aren’t saying anything because we both don’t wanna jinx it. 

Week 19
Suyen’s only JUST gotten a bit more clumsy and its a bit nerve-wrecking. I’ve never been so on edge and alert like a watchdog. But we’re on our honeymoon and it SEEMS like her nausea has really gone down and we’re just crossing our fingers more and more.

Week 20
Our honey-anni-babymoon in NZ was a dream. Zero nausea, 100% energy levels - it was like the woman I once knew. But the minute she touched down, she threw up 6 times in the same day and was so depressed about it. We made a small switch that seemed to make all the difference - bottled mineral water. Side note - she becoming a LITTLE absent minded. Just a bit. The baby has started kicking/punching!

Week 21
Energy levels are back and she’s super happy about it. Was it really the water? She cleaned the house for the first time since she got morning sickness - THAT’s how good she was feeling. Thursday was a shock. She was throwing up in the morning just off some coughing. We realised its really a water thing. She mistakenly drank some older water that we had. Switched back to distilled-a-okay.

Week 22
Nausea is gone - water was the “thing”. Baby is kicking like crazy! Also - I came home to furniture moved around the house. Including a whole cupboard from the bedroom to the washing machine room - with all of its contents swapped out and reset with new ones. Heavy, many, new ones. I don’t know how she did it.

Week 23
Came home to a new cupboard/shelf assembled and more painting done. Had a bit of a stressed out moment because she was painting @-@ but good Lord. She moved the whole balcony by herself and built a huge piece of furniture. How??

Week 24
Baby is going AT it. Kicking is at full force and from time to time - she’ll be “eeeeee” because the baby is poking her arms/legs/we actually don’t know what, out of her tummy. Also, she puked twice this week. No idea why or how but just in the mornings, but she was cool with it. Oh! She cooked her first meal again in months! (The chicken was 4 months expired though - but our stomachs were totally fine) Also - becoming a bit more pregger-brained apparently. This week, random things started slipping her mind a bit more.

Week 25
Baby’s cute bumps have become boxing matches. Suyen’s always groaning how the baby’s stretching her body and tummy and ooh-ahh-ing whenever the baby kicks (really kicks). Also, pregnant brain has come into effect (I thought we were clear from that). She lost her access cards this week and she was pretty bummed about it. Thank God for the good security guard who returned the cards to us.

Week 26
Spent half the week in SG but returned to an interesting event. Prenatal class was pretty interesting - not what we expected it to be at all. But the most calming thing was actually seeing the maternity wards and the different rooms. The labour room wasn’t near as scary as what we thought it would be! 

Week 27
Baby clothes, diapers and anything baby-fitting are in full-spaz mood. She spent a while just looking at newborn diapers and picturing how the baby would be in them. Also, she built a full-sized IKEA bed with drawers at the bottom and I still have no idea how she does it. I’m actually typing this while she’s sleeping next to me and I can see the baby having a ball of a jumping up and down session in her tummy! My gosh does the baby move even more while she sleeps?

Week 28
She had the first real stretchmark scare the other day. It wasn’t the real thing though. She was in a dress that left some marks on the top of her tummy. But boy was it a real scare to her. 


First Trimester (0-12 weeks)

I was not feeling well for 2 days. We suspected food poisoning, because I was throwing up and feeling weak, but it was strange when there was no diarrhoea. By the second day, I wonder, could it be? Ming Han came back home with dinner and a pregnancy test; and it took just seconds for the test to reveal – it’s POSITIVE. It was so quick that I wondered if I was really SO pregnant or that Clearblue Pregnancy Kit was really good. haha. We had a huge moment together of holding each other, tears and all. This surprise news was a sudden realisation that soon there will be a new addition to our lives together. We visited a gynae and he confirmed that we were 5 weeks into having a baby!

The beginning days were tough, and some days felt like it was going to last forever. I experienced morning sickness, whole-day nausea, and vomitting daily till the mid-second trimester. I was exhausted most of the time, and when I did not need to work, I would be sleeping most of the day. I brought plastic bags everywhere I went, and puke as I went along my day. I depended more on Ming Han and he learnt how to take care of me. The symptoms did not get better but going through them each day got better. He woke up earlier, did chores, made sure there were fruits, water and food prepared on the table before he left for work. I would tell him how I felt on a level of 1-10 and it was extremely comforting when husbands explore together with you on what kind of food / comfort items help through this period. Scent of fresh laundry and random smells will trigger my nausea. Every little chore felt like a tremendous effort. For someone who loves getting things done I knew I couldn’t be myself in that moment. And I let it be and be okay with it.

And things did get better at the second trimester.

I wanted to keep a journal of my entire pregnancy but I was just too exhausted especially in the first trimester to jot down what I was going through. Jean Wang from Extra Petite’s husband, Nick (@thedadview) kept a journal of his wife’s pregnancy and I would always laugh reading them. I casually mentioned it to Ming Han and later did I know, he kept a journal of my entire pregnancy! I would laugh reading them from his perspective and was so glad he did. Here are his words.

Week 1-5
We had absolutely no idea anything was going on tbh. No food baby bump, no mood swings (none to begin with anyway), nothing! Puking! Pretty much two days of it came out of nowhere. Thought it might be stomach flu but her gut told her it might be something else. One pregnancy test later - we got a baby brewing!

Week 6-10
She’s pretty much had the energy levels of a sloth. Puking rounds range from 3 times a day to 8/9 times a day. I’ve gotten used to the sounds of throwing up unbelievably well. My fruit cutting skills have reached new levels. Cravings change weekly and smell-sensitivity changes insanely too. Achievements: She’s gotten comfortable burping and farting around me. Only missed reaching the toilet for puking twice. So that’s two times she’s puked in her hands.

Week 11-12
Energy is coming back. She’s slowly starting to resemble the girl I once knew. Just with a lot more gas. Farting is a norm now. The lady knows no more shame. Also, hand and leg massages are the ultimate signs of love for her now.


D&AD New Blood Exhibition 2012

D&AD recently had its exhibition, also known as New Blood in Spitalfield Market, London. This was a place where universities across UK showcase the best works of their students and many from the industry head hunt for talented individuals and pretty much offer them jobs. Here in the UK, awards such as "Yellow Pencils", "White Pencils" are greatly recognized and highly sought after among universities and in the creative industry. This was something I was totally unaware until I came here to the UK to pursue my studies. It was amazing being to be a part of the exhibition and being able to showcase my portfolio and be surrounded with SO many great talents across the UK! It was an amazing experience and you feel so humbled and amazed by the RAW talents that were showcase in the 3-day exhibition! My association with D&AD started when I responded to a D&AD brief for Ministry Of Sound as part of our module in Northumbria University. Although it did not make into any category, it was from that opportunity that opened my eyes to learn from and be inspired by students' works across UK.

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Our university had 3 stands this year - 2 for Interactive Media and another for Graphic Design. There are some works that really stood out to me, which were really creative and had really solid ideas, and I would like to share them with you.1. Melissa Preston from Edinburgh Napier University on packaging for a 21st century Whisky Packaging. With a female market 'Men seeking Women', she used the idea of dating/single ads for their packaging.

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Yonca Yilmaz from Bucks New University. 'Think before you Ink',  she addressed the problem of 23% of tattooed people in the UK regretting their body art.

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Check out Febby my talented motion designer/musician friend. If you were at the exhibition you would have seen her showreel exhibited :) While we were down in London, we slipped out of the exhibition and had to make a trip to Camden Town where we always find something new and interesting ! This trip, we found deep fried oreos *wink* How awesome is that!

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Graduate Degree Show 2012

A beautiful milestone in my designing journey- the opening night of our Graduate Degree Show. The REVEAL 2012 degree show is Northumbria School of Design’s Undergraduate and MA design showcase. With over 300 graduating design students from a range of design disciplines that include Fashion Design, Design for Industry, Motion Graphics & Animation and Interior Design. Reveal 2012 is the only place to see work from the hottest design talent around. Northumbria School of Design has a great history when it comes to producing the best new designers. Exhibition is currently still running, although some work and portfolios have been taken down to London for the New Blood exhibition.

21 June - 28 June 2012 | 9am - 5pm ( Monday - Friday) | City Campus East, Northumbria University, Newcastle upon Tyne | Free admission

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Beautiful posters screen printed

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Photo collage of us involved in the degree show :) Our tutorsMy amazing group mates for our 'Korolev' project - Me with my booth

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If you come by, do check out some of my mates' work - these are just a few of the amazing lot of creativity you will find!

Will Child - illustration

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Sam McWilliams - brandingJim Clayton - publishingDorothy Kwan - illustrationCharlotte Ashcroft - illustrationFanny Marcellina - illustrationRowan Van Blerk - publishing

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On the 3rd floor, it is fashion and product design.

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Tutor's Choice Student Award 2012

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On the opening night of our graduate degree show, the tutors of Graphics have decided to have a number of awards to be given out to students in each stream ( Publishing, Branding and Illustration ). There were 4 catergories- 'One to Look Out For', 'Most Improved Student', 'Hard Graft Student' & 'Tutor's Choice' and it was great cheering on your coursemates when they received the awards.  Am very thankful to be awarded Tutors' Choice Student Award by my tutor, Ted Carden.

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